How many things have you said yes to when you wanted to say no?
Giving is wonderful and it allows to be part of something bigger than yourself.
It brings purpose and joy to your life.
…But only if you’re saying yes for the right reasons.
If you say yes because you feel guilty or you’re afraid of what someone else will think, it’s time to set boundaries.
When you’re honest about what you like to do, what’s important to you, and what you won’t tolerate, it’s easy to create and hold boundaries.
But to feel good about creating and holding boundaries, you have to be clear about your values, and know you deserve respect.
Your drop your boundaries when you fear being liked or judged.
It might sound like…
“I feel like if I could make it work then I should do it.”
“If I say no to meeting after normal work hours, they’ll think I’m not a team player,” or “I don’t even want to go, but I don’t want to not go and feel left out.”
All three women were saying yes to things that made them feel guilty, anxious, and out of place.
Saying yes felt bad.
They wanted to be nice, to make people happy, and to be included.
In the process, they were giving up time with their families, showing up resentful, and wishing they would have said no.
They were doing everything for everyone for all the wrong reasons.
As we worked together, they learned why they were saying yes.
They created strong values and believes, so they could say yes or no and mean it.
Discovering your values and knowing yourself lets you say no without guilt and resentment.
You say yes to what is important, feel grateful to be asked and excited to help.
Schedule a consultation call to talk about creating boundaries that allow you to say yes to what is important to you and no to anxiety and overwhelm.
Be sure to check out Episode 29 of the More than Anxiety Podcast to hear more about Setting Boundaries. While you’re there, take a quick minute to leave a review and follow so you don’t miss a beat and help others find the podcast as well. Thanks!
