Check this out.
“In a recent study, researchers looked at 27 different emotions and gained fascinating insight into the average amount of time each emotion tends to stay.
Sadness is the longest lasting of all emotions taking on average 120 hours to pass.
Hatred is the second most enduring emotion followed by joy which lasts an average of 35 hours.
Guilt lingers longer than the hot burn of shame; and fear tends to pass fairly quickly compared to anxiety which generally lasts much longer.”
And the chemical reaction in your body that is anger - 90 seconds.
So why do you feel anger, guilt, shame, or sadness for years?
Because instead of feeling the emotions,
and solving the problems,
You keep thinking about the problem.
Ignoring how you feel,
Pushing them away.
But they’re always in the back of your mind.
You wake up in the night and try to feel less miserable
by thinking more.
So you’re tired the next day,
snapping at your partner, your kids, and your coworkers.
You avoid people and situations and pretend everything is fine,
until you’re anxious about seeing them or being around them.
And when you notice those big feelings coming back up,
you distract yourself with Netflix, a drink, overworking,
anything that keeps you from feeling the emotion.
And this helps for a while.
But, avoiding the things that trigger you only makes the trigger stronger.
So you feel like you dodged something,
but it’s still there.
You still think about
how mad you are,
how guilty you feel,
how sad everything is, and
now you’re anxious on top of it all.
This is why you have to feel the emotion,
to heal the emotion.
When you take the time to feel and deal with uncomfortable emotions,
you stop stressing over the situations and people connected to
whatever happened to make you feel that way.
When you’re less stressed,
your anxiety shrinks so overthinking and avoiding things
you’re more open, loving, and fun to be around, so your relationships improve,
you sleep better so you concentrate better at home and at work,
and you have more energy!
You can talk to me about how I can help you process emotions,
let go of grudges, stress and anxiety, and
have more fun and energy by scheduling a consultation call.
This call is all about you.
What you’re feeling now and why, and
What you want to feel and do instead.
I’ll help you take a look at different areas of your life so you can see what’s working,
what isn’t working and why, and what you can do differently!
To get started, grab your calendar
and choose a time from my calendar that works for you.
Then, give me a call at that time!
I can’t wait to talk with you soon.
P.S. Your life beyond stress and anxiety begins with a decision. You can decide now to change how your body feels and how you respond when you're anxious, so anxiety loses its power. The question isn't, “Am I ready?” The question is, “Have I decided to be ready?” Ready is just one decision away.
P.P.S. Be sure to check out Episode 69 of the More than Anxiety Podcast to hear more about How To Process Emotions wherever you listen. While you’re there, take a quick minute to leave a review and follow so you don’t miss a beat and help others find the podcast as well. Thanks!